So, r-ships have their ups and downs. Overall the good should outweigh the bad, or it just ain't worth it. In addition to this balance though is the importance of the timing of positive instances and negative ones.
I think it works best for me if'n my final instance of a chunk o' togetherness w/someone is positive, or at least neutral. If'n there's been bad feelings/time together though, then neutral's insufficient for the final spot of time together and positive's required. Otherwise the hamster-wheel runs the negative stuff over and over again, which ain't good. Realizing this helps. Now to figure out how to make it so...
MiniEpiphany for the win!
I think it works best for me if'n my final instance of a chunk o' togetherness w/someone is positive, or at least neutral. If'n there's been bad feelings/time together though, then neutral's insufficient for the final spot of time together and positive's required. Otherwise the hamster-wheel runs the negative stuff over and over again, which ain't good. Realizing this helps. Now to figure out how to make it so...
MiniEpiphany for the win!