Balance Is Insufficient; Ending A Space/Chunk Of Time Together On A Positive Note Is Needful, Too

[mlerules]

So, r-ships have their ups and downs. Overall the good should outweigh the bad, or it just ain't worth it. In addition to this balance though is the importance of the timing of positive instances and negative ones.

I think it works best for me if'n my final instance of a chunk o' togetherness w/someone is positive, or at least neutral. If'n there's been bad feelings/time together though, then neutral's insufficient for the final spot of time together and positive's required. Otherwise the hamster-wheel runs the negative stuff over and over again, which ain't good. Realizing this helps. Now to figure out how to make it so...

MiniEpiphany for the win!

Comments

[fjorlief.livejournal.com]

Yay for figuring out what works best for you!

I do agree with a lot of this personally as well. When J and I split up, our final time together was kind and sort of bittersweet, and I left that relationship feeling sad but okay. When G and I split up, the ending was so shocking and sudden and not actually very kind, that my eqilibrium took a very very long time to recover