Realization

[mlerules]

If'n I'm a stress-monkey 'bout something, I'll assume the worst 'bout stuff utterly unrelated to the stress-factor. Once the stress has passed (such as when I've accomplished whatever 'twas), my outlook and view change completely and I no longer assume the worst but instead revert to my more typical cheery up positive attitude 'bout stuff 'n' things. Interesting, this. Not quite sure how to deal w/it, because avoiding all stress just ain't possible. Luckily I ain't stressed one whit now.

Comments

[clayshaper.livejournal.com]

This is a truth that I think is True for ALL beings... even animals in dire circumstances will assume the worst untill they recover from the stress of the current situation!

I would think they key would be to tell folks you're feeling stressed or there's a problem, so they can say to themselves 'well, so-and-so is going through some stuff right now, maybe he/she doesn't mean that...' if you over-react. Also telling them when you feel that over-reaction would probably be ideal- but I know I don't think to do it. :(

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Heh, yeah - the trick is in realizing when/that I'm over-stressed. Hmm, mebbe I'll try to turn this on it's head. If'n I'm stressed about something that I know from past experience is a Red Button issue (such as what triggered this post), then mebbe I'll add in a step of Considering Whassup 'Bout Which I'm Stressed...and communicate whassup (if'n I cannot just hold it together and not react based on stressors).

Thx for good brain fodder 'n' thinkie-thoughtie insights. May we both/each learn from 'em... :-)