Labels 'n' Roles

[mlerules]

There're times when this role chafes. Yeah, I assign it to myself, it's my own dang-blamed fault if'n it's an issue, I know this. I don't want folks to be/get hurt. I want to avoid drama. But I ain't gonna live in a cave. I'll take what precautions seem appropriate then let loose to the winds and watch where they blow.

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[sheistheweather]

Hm?

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Ah, methinks you haven't been around long enough to enjoy my Cryptic Posts (tm) when I go off w/out really letting on whassup...welcome to another aspect of the life 'n' times 'n' head-space of MLE.

Since, however, you care to ask, I'll let on that I find myself on occasion filling the role of "mom." I've even got a friend (or two) down South who call me "mom" on occasion (not usually when we're smooching), 'cause I can 'n' do organize things 'n' facilitate things 'n' help things happen (at all/smoothly), 'cause I truly believe that an ounce of prevention's worth a pound of cure. At times, however, such "help" isn't necessarily warranted and/or appreciated. So I make judgment calls based on experience and my "read" of a situation and then I act...and then deal w/the fall-out, if any.

Really, it'd be so much easier if'n all existing r-ships came w/manuals so you could just read the rules and easily identify the boundaries w/in the r-ship vis-a-vis all possible scenarios and add-ons and possibilities, 'cause then you wouldn't have to figure it/'em out and/or ask all sorts of ackward (sp) questions and "mom" to make sure that folks've thought 'n' talked things through themselves and communicated such rules/boundaries/decisions/&c. with all who need to know 'em, 'cause even if'n it's really no business of mine, if'n it affects those I care about deeply so I'll interfere 'n' ask qx possibly outta line. *sigh*

Is this clearer now?

[argentla.livejournal.com]

I've even got a friend (or two) down South who call me "mom" on occasion (not usually when we're smooching)

I think if they're calling you mom, they should be disqualified from smooching...

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Therein lies another rub altogether...

[vismaya-viewer.livejournal.com]

You haven't spent an extended amount of time with us in our space, so when the winds blow you this way, rest assured we are a relatively 'drama free zone'. I say 'relatively' because there are no absolutes with humans who, in our current evolutionary state, are still learning to manage their emotions; often with a sledge hammer when surgical tools are required. However, if a 'drama llama' happens to sneak in, it is quickly ushered right back out, in our continuous effort to keep this a 'drama free zone'; a safe and sacred place between the worlds. We also manage to take pretty good care of ourselves and each other - so mothering will be not required - while also offering hospitality I'm told we've perfected to an art form; so be prepared to be pampered. Unless pampering causes discomfort - I'm not completely comfortable with people serving me - then we're all about needs being met and boundaries being respected, so just give us a heads up as to what will bring you the greatest happiness. :o)

Huzzah for Drama-Llama-Free Zones1

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Ya' know, I do enjoy being pampered, but rarely does it come up. No thoughts of mothering vis-a-vis you folks - you've got it together and I feel comfie enough asking any qx I might have.

I do so like how you phrase things.