On Love

[mlerules]

This article in the LA Times got me thinking about this whole love thing yet again. Yeah, it's fun falling under the influence...BUT...but then what? Okay, more on this later.

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[evilgerbil.livejournal.com]

I read that article in print last week and it really got to me. I was angry as hell because not long ago a man I care about and I fell deeply for each other, with all those stupid can't stop thinking about the other one signs, and it was all kind of based in nothing and we got hurt. 'd like to be able to turn off the limerance so I can think next time.

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it was actually reading some of your recent experiences which is a big part of why this's been on my mind of late, so the article hit a chord big-time. I'd like the limerance to lead to something next time...'cept I really don't know WHAT. And I figure the time to think about WHAT is NOW, BEFORE it happens again, so I can look at my journal and at least TRY to be sensible even whilst in the throes of "ohmigod s/he's so marvelous!"

Better luck next time...

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

This is why I like having limerance grow out of pre-existing friendships. when it works that way, things can be amazing with much less worry.

Sadly, not so much in control of that...

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but since I'm meeting a whole mess of new folks up here...opportunities for limerance w/out pre-existing f-ship are few. 'Cause when the bug bites, it happens. I can try not to give in and scratch the itch quite as hard as I'd like and see what develops f-ship-wise along the way, but if'n there's an initial attraction, it's not so fun ignoring it...nor is it particularly sensible completing avoiding it out of fear for getting hurt (unless numerous red flags're waving in the breeze).

[evilgerbil.livejournal.com]

It was a super big blow to me reading some emails he'd sent me days before he arrived that I hadn't read before and got a chance to while we were together in Guatemala. One of them said "what will it be like to look at each other across the table for the first time? What will we do once we've hugged and kissed hello?"

The sad thing was we never figured that part out :(

[sterling-raptor.livejournal.com]

I got lucky. I got Gods blessed once in a million years lucky. My husband and I are equally insane about each other. We are both very practical and realistic people so we talk talk talk talk talk about every little thing. That drove my other partners nuts, but he wants to know every tiny nuance of me, as I do him. And yes, for us, it is like an addiction. He deployed and there was heinous withdraw. Heinous.

Oddly enough, one of the few good things about my current issues, is that I have been so often forced to put my emotions aside and analyze a situation, that it isn't hard for me to do that with even the most powerful emotions. It makes me seem a bit too cold now, but I am working on it. :D