Morning Meme

[mlerules]

Why am I on your friends' list?

Comment, then post this in your journal and see what people say about you (if you like).

Be as honest as you like and if'n you ask me to keep it screened, I shall.

Comments

[lorriet.livejournal.com]

You're on my friends list because you're cool and fun (though we do have the hardest time getting our schedules to mesh when you're flying up and down the coast so much! Eventually, we will be able to at least have a cup of coffee!)

:)

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

and the same to you, sister! :-)

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

because you're a friend... and if it weren't for LJ I'd never have a freakin' clue what's going on with any of my friends.

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Hey, there's always IM...and the phone!

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

I don't use the phone. Puh-lease!

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Why don't you use the phone? (Current sitch w/youngster attached aside.)

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

I don't know. I'm just not a phone person. Some people can't stand to be without them. I'd rather do everything via text or face-to-face. Usually I'd rather get a machine and leave a concise message than get embroiled in a conversation (possibly because I am unskilled in ENDING them). I also think there may be something in the "can take the time I need" thing with written word. My brain works better at typing speed than speaking. I always seem to find myself floundering in verbal coms, despite people seeming to think I'm articulate... Perhaps competent use of the English language is more rare than I thought?

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

Hmm, I'll give you a call so we can discuss this in more detail.

KIDDING! ;-P

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

::giggle::

I have an answering machine for a reason! I know how to screen!!!! ;P

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

How much of it do you think 'tis 'bout the whole not being able to see someone's expressions (or smileys)? As you noted, though, if'n it's tricky to get off the phone when you've got other stuff to do, that's adding a level of potential stress to a situation that's best avoiding.

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

Some of it is fear of getting embroiled in conversation I can't leave, some of it is fear of being rejected by the person on the other end of the line, crazy as that sounds. If it's online I can walk away and not feel ignored. If it's in person I can see when I'm not focused on and leave. Over the phone it's so half and half. You get more inflection and tone, but no visuals. I can't put it down like I can written coms, but I can't really see everything that's going on com-wise, so I wind up feeling somewhat trapped. It's bizarre. I don't completely understand it myself, and have a hard time explaining it to others. I pawn making phone calls off on J all the time because he isn't bothered by it. For me it's almost a mild phobia. It's weird.

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

So, you KNOW my suggestion even before I make it, dontcha?

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

As in, make more phone calls? Aversion therapy is an ugly, ugly thing, madame...;P

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

There's a NAME for it? I've used it myself to get over certain fears...or at least uncomfortablenesses. Of course it's best to pick your battles and this just might not be worth it...unless it'd help you overall have a better sense of self-worth and not-worthy-of-rejection-ness.

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

Well, aversion therapy is typically forcing your kid to smoke a whole pack of cigarettes so he won't touch them ever again, etc. The trick is, if you take someone who already doesn't like something, and make them do it MORE, it often backfires with the aversion therapy effect of making them like it even less. So, it would only be aversion therapy if it failed to do what you would intend.

Seeing as how I don't find myself particularly hampered by this (I make calls when I need to, I just tend to avoid the "it would be convenient/nice to know but not critical" ones, and DON'T make "I called to chat" calls) I've never worked up the drive to overcome it, really.

[shutt3rg33k.livejournal.com]

You, lovely lady, are on my F-list cuz you are so very wonderful, intelligent, interesting, warm and fun. Cuz I liked you from the very moment I met you.

oh, thats easy

[sonicbunny.livejournal.com]

...cause i know everyone

[sknowite.livejournal.com]

Because you are my friend. Also, I am your friend.

[mlerules.livejournal.com]

yeah! and thx...appreciated.