Blathering On About Rships

[mlerules]

Okay, feeling a desire - and possibly a need - to blather on for a bit about rships &c. In other words, I wanna use LJ (DW, whatEVER) for its initial - for me, anyway - intended purpose of rambling on at length about things and stuff, working out what's going on in my mind/heart/soul a bit better by trying to articulate it. Cut in case your interest's already waned. ;-)


What does it mean to have a crush on someone? To love someone? I know I want to spend time with this person, to receive attention from this person, to lavish attention upon this person. My life feels richer - and fuller - for this person's presence in it. It had felt like a crush. Heck is WAS indeed a crush. But it's not a crush now. Not sure what it is now. I'd called it love for a while, as in "I love this person." But what does this MEAN?! Physical intimacy's out. But intimacy exists, or at least it feels like it. We share stories and feelings of excitement, frustration, &c.

Eh, I guess it really doesn't matter what I call it. I've reached a very satisfied state of being vis-a-vis this person and hope it continues.

Comments

[alephnul]

I'm glad it is at a happy state! The whole vocabulary around deep friendship is really lacking.

[mlerules]

Thank you! Yeah, this is so true re: vocab dearth. Deep Friendship's a fine term, far better than Platonic, which, although true, doesn't even begin to capture the depth of feeling or desire to spend time together, to plan, to enjoy, &c.

[garyomaha]

I have no particularly insight but I want to support you with a hearty "Yes!"

[mlerules]

Thanks, appreciated!