The second is an excellent article with concepts that I wish more people understood. I am in no way an introvert, but I am fairly shy (a trait that's IME far more common among extroverts).
I've always claimed that I was shy growing up, and folks've generally laughed at the thought, b'c nowadays I'm pretty darned extroverted 'n' social. Really 'twas so, though. I spent lots of time on my own when I was younger, sans others my age. Rather than making friends, I spent much of my time in my head - reading 'n' roaming, wandering 'n' wondering. Even now, despite my acknowledged need to spend time with and around others, I also need a fair amount of ME time, too.
Hmm, this could be part of why we haven't all hung out s'more? ;-) If'n ya'll play board and/or card games, methinks that could be fun to do together some time.
I have something penciled in for next Fri eve (2/17), but otherwise the weekend's free. This would be a delightful way to fill it in, methinks. :-) (Phew - managed to avoid ending that sentence in a preposition, so get extra points ;-)
Oh, I'm leaving town mid-day today, returning Sunday night sometime. I won't have LJ access while I'm gone, so feel free to connect via e-mail (LJ handle at gmail) if'n you'd like, to further plans or whatever. (ZOOM! goes my Safe Travels icon!)
"Shyness and introversion are not the same thing. Shy people fear negative judgment, while introverts simply prefer less stimulation; shyness is inherently painful, and introversion is not. But in a society that prizes the bold and the outspoken, both are perceived as disadvantages."
This. So, very much. More people need to understand this concept. I grew up being both introverted and shy, but the wanting me time wasn't because I viewed my own actions around folks as painful/embarrassing/etc, but because it was overwhelming. The shyness was separate, and IMO, something that I've gotten better with and worked to overcome. I can't help but be overstimulated, it just happens.
A friend described the difference 'tween extroverts and introverts in a great way. Extroverts charge by spending there time with lots of people, introverts at a party, will get their energy zapped. However, when spending time with themselves, introverts are able to recharge, where as extroverts cannot.
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Date: 2012-02-02 10:12 pm (UTC):) I resemble that remark a bit. I've though about having you over for dinner sometime, or board games could work.
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Date: 2012-02-02 09:57 am (UTC)This. So, very much. More people need to understand this concept. I grew up being both introverted and shy, but the wanting me time wasn't because I viewed my own actions around folks as painful/embarrassing/etc, but because it was overwhelming. The shyness was separate, and IMO, something that I've gotten better with and worked to overcome. I can't help but be overstimulated, it just happens.
A friend described the difference 'tween extroverts and introverts in a great way. Extroverts charge by spending there time with lots of people, introverts at a party, will get their energy zapped. However, when spending time with themselves, introverts are able to recharge, where as extroverts cannot.
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