Quote of the Day

[mlerules]

Sharing the wealth of words, courtesy of inkandalchemy who found and quoted it earlier today.

"Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option."

Comments

[acerzen.livejournal.com]

For some reason that one is so hard for me. It seems I often have the need to prove to those people that I am worth being a priority...or worth loving. I wish I could find out why.

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

Hear, hear.

I hate this imbalance. It drives me crazy on a regular basis.

[fearless-son.livejournal.com]

I feel similarly. I tend to view love as something that is based on the merits that I earn in service to another, and because of that love is a confirmation that another judges me worthy.

I know it does not work that way, but it is the only model that makes sense in my mind, so I cling to it.

[kinopion.livejournal.com]

snaps to this.

[acerzen.livejournal.com]

I wonder how givers and givers get a long together.

[fearless-son.livejournal.com]

It is odd, but my attraction to a woman is directly proportional to the respect I have for her. The more strength of character she displays and the more accomplishments of hers that I admire, the stronger I am attracted to her and the more worthy I judge her to be. As such, it inspires me to improve myself and to continue to prove myself to her so that she may find me worthy of her as well.

At least that is how my ideal relationship would go. In practice it is harder to find someone who's method of attraction is compatible to mine.

[acerzen.livejournal.com]

now that sounds hot!

I seem to be attracted (not always, of course, thank the lawds) to people that are pessimistic about the world, life, women, relationships and I try to prove that there is a better way, that there is this excellent thing out there and I can show them. Fortunately, I am also attracted to like minded people but for some reason the OP comment happens a lot and causes this feeling of desperation or pain. It never works out well.

Let's hear it for healthy relationships with people that inspire us to be our better selves.

[stacymckenna.livejournal.com]

I operate a lot like this, too. When their pedestal tarnishes, my drive to serve or impress falls off incredibly.

[ignusfaatus.livejournal.com]

well sometimes they help eachother right to death.

[ignusfaatus.livejournal.com]

and well sometimes they have fun doing that.

[fyrebringer.livejournal.com]

same here. i will give someone my everything until they show me they dont want it. then they go to the bottom of the list.

[clayshaper.livejournal.com]

Isn't that sad? :P Everything has the pottential to go hopelessly wrong, if we don't watch our lives to make sure it's all going healthily.

My Mom is the UBER-enabler. In the guise of 'helping' people, she enables them to do very very UNhealthy things... she does genuinely care- but a better expression of that would be to NOT enable them to continue those paths. Ya aught not be the one buying the alchoholic the beer, in otherwords. :P

[fearless-son.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, attractions do not necessarily equate to emotions, and that has often been the stumbling point in many of my relationships. I may admire someone and be attracted to her, but that does not mean that I have feelings for her. Sometimes I have feelings for another who does not recriprocate, and nothing will come of. I will be honest with whatever partner that I unfortunately cannot force my emotions to change, but regardless of what I feel if I am with someone it is because I judge them worthy and choose to be with them, not because I have feelings.

Sadly, this seems to be a gamebreaker for most women.