If Only...
Feb. 18th, 2009 11:02 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mlerulesSometimes folks seem to think that If Only I had (insert whatever material possession or chunk of money), I'd be happy. (And hey, it may not hurt, but if'n that's the goal, it's quite possible that you're spending/losing out on emotional capital/sustenance needed to find/maintain happiness, with ends (possession/position X rather than happiness itself) getting lost/more distant then the means (perhaps working an insane schedule at a less-than-happy-making job).
Similarly, sometimes it seems as if folks say If Only thus-and-so loved me, I'd be happy, oft-times w/the logic being that thus-and-so is so great and if'n s/he loved me, it'd mean I'm as worthy and wonderful as I'd like to be. It's the validation more than anything else that seems to matter, or mebbe it's just the icing on the cake (as in having and eating 'em both).
And then my mind moves onto quality vs. quantity of r-ships. I like intimacy: opening myself up and having another open up and seeing what sorta trouble we can get into. Heh. Dunno why I put it that way, but I'm practicing Do Not Delete and it came out so I'll leave it be.
Oh, these're just the tips of icebergs of thoughts and feelings currently chugging along the Western corridors of the MLE...
Similarly, sometimes it seems as if folks say If Only thus-and-so loved me, I'd be happy, oft-times w/the logic being that thus-and-so is so great and if'n s/he loved me, it'd mean I'm as worthy and wonderful as I'd like to be. It's the validation more than anything else that seems to matter, or mebbe it's just the icing on the cake (as in having and eating 'em both).
And then my mind moves onto quality vs. quantity of r-ships. I like intimacy: opening myself up and having another open up and seeing what sorta trouble we can get into. Heh. Dunno why I put it that way, but I'm practicing Do Not Delete and it came out so I'll leave it be.
Oh, these're just the tips of icebergs of thoughts and feelings currently chugging along the Western corridors of the MLE...
