Authentic Experiences: Wavemaking
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mlerulesThis phrase has always bugged the carp outta me. Your experience of an event tends to be authentic. It's yours. (Or mine, or whoevers.) Sometimes we'll get something out of an event: cull or distill a realization. Sometimes this'll happen after the fact, sometimes smack dab in the middle of the happening (which can distract one from the rest of the event's goings on). Sometimes I'll generate a generalization and see how the event fits it...then fantasize/imagine other possibilities and see how they fit into the scheme.
Right now what's going on is that two (2) separate events have coagulated and are feeding off each other. Issues: causation & ...not quite sure how to articulate it: something along the lines of lastingness, durability, effect, generalizing (ed term: transferring experience/skill/knowledge gained beyond the set situtation to (an)other).
On durability...and authenticness...and alternative realities and parallel but co-existing universes: for a set chunk of time, an event, an occasion, certain feelings may arise, certain connections made, bonds forged. To what end? What lasts? What's taken away that'll last/recur? Is it the person or the experience? This gets back to something I brought up the other day: do people like people or what happen when they're around 'em. Is it the experience WITH the person or are people interchangeable? Or perhaps folks get categorized into zones of proximal fun/use. It was good w/someone once so might be again. Or perhaps there's a been-there-done-that effect. (Ooooh - bad news...for all.)
How fungible are good times? How sustaining are good times? And if something's really really good, something you've missed and/or wanted and/or don't get regularly, what's it worth to repeat (or attempt)? Addiction comes to mind. Real Life (whatever the hell THAT is) can interfere...can slap one back to reality, can slap down one's attempts at recreating whatever the circs were or sitch was that satisfied the particular set of itches that one (or more) time(s).
When worlds collide and sparks fly and good times are had...sometimes gravitational forces outside oneself can prevent/diminish possibilities of recurrence. Fault doesn't (necessarily) enter into it. One's choices can be bound by other choices previously made...and by desires not to rock boats or make waves. Tsunami warning systems may be in place, if not at the moment, then after the fact. Reflection versus spontaneity. The former after the latter can decrease chances of the latter recurring. (Sometimes this is called Learning From Your Mistakes.)
Damn. Thank goodness it's SO much easier now (than previously) to let go, to get what I can out of an experience, to learn/grow blah blah blah, without being torn apart by the fact/possibility that it won't happen again, or might not, and certainly not on the time-scale I'd like. 'Cause my time-life's quite...different from most. And I don't (always) take things personally. Things aren't (always) my (or anyone else's) fault. Life swirls around us. Each of us has our different and varied (and varying) orbits and patterns and/or chaotic rhythms. Intersections occur as they do. We can hope for more. We can strive for more. We can do what we can do to increase the possibilities of more. Luck can kick in. Mebbe karma, too. If it doesn't happen though, other things will.
Not so good to tie oneself up too tightly w/one particular set of What If's and wants, 'cause then (a) you can miss other good sh!t coming down the pike, (b) you're up sh!t creek w/sharks all around and no paddles if'n you eventually get what you've been trying for and it's not really all it's cracked up to be, and/or (c) you're screwed if'n thing don't work out. So, to this end it's important to reevaluate goals on a semi-regular basis. See how close you're coming to satisfying goals...and the needs they're meant to satisfy. If off-target, shift priorities and/or actions so you get closer to what you want/need/desire. Watch and see whether and how the means effect/shift the ends.
There's a certain art to living a good worthwhile satisfactory life. I'm well pleased w/mine. Could be better. I'm working on it.
Right now what's going on is that two (2) separate events have coagulated and are feeding off each other. Issues: causation & ...not quite sure how to articulate it: something along the lines of lastingness, durability, effect, generalizing (ed term: transferring experience/skill/knowledge gained beyond the set situtation to (an)other).
On durability...and authenticness...and alternative realities and parallel but co-existing universes: for a set chunk of time, an event, an occasion, certain feelings may arise, certain connections made, bonds forged. To what end? What lasts? What's taken away that'll last/recur? Is it the person or the experience? This gets back to something I brought up the other day: do people like people or what happen when they're around 'em. Is it the experience WITH the person or are people interchangeable? Or perhaps folks get categorized into zones of proximal fun/use. It was good w/someone once so might be again. Or perhaps there's a been-there-done-that effect. (Ooooh - bad news...for all.)
How fungible are good times? How sustaining are good times? And if something's really really good, something you've missed and/or wanted and/or don't get regularly, what's it worth to repeat (or attempt)? Addiction comes to mind. Real Life (whatever the hell THAT is) can interfere...can slap one back to reality, can slap down one's attempts at recreating whatever the circs were or sitch was that satisfied the particular set of itches that one (or more) time(s).
When worlds collide and sparks fly and good times are had...sometimes gravitational forces outside oneself can prevent/diminish possibilities of recurrence. Fault doesn't (necessarily) enter into it. One's choices can be bound by other choices previously made...and by desires not to rock boats or make waves. Tsunami warning systems may be in place, if not at the moment, then after the fact. Reflection versus spontaneity. The former after the latter can decrease chances of the latter recurring. (Sometimes this is called Learning From Your Mistakes.)
Damn. Thank goodness it's SO much easier now (than previously) to let go, to get what I can out of an experience, to learn/grow blah blah blah, without being torn apart by the fact/possibility that it won't happen again, or might not, and certainly not on the time-scale I'd like. 'Cause my time-life's quite...different from most. And I don't (always) take things personally. Things aren't (always) my (or anyone else's) fault. Life swirls around us. Each of us has our different and varied (and varying) orbits and patterns and/or chaotic rhythms. Intersections occur as they do. We can hope for more. We can strive for more. We can do what we can do to increase the possibilities of more. Luck can kick in. Mebbe karma, too. If it doesn't happen though, other things will.
Not so good to tie oneself up too tightly w/one particular set of What If's and wants, 'cause then (a) you can miss other good sh!t coming down the pike, (b) you're up sh!t creek w/sharks all around and no paddles if'n you eventually get what you've been trying for and it's not really all it's cracked up to be, and/or (c) you're screwed if'n thing don't work out. So, to this end it's important to reevaluate goals on a semi-regular basis. See how close you're coming to satisfying goals...and the needs they're meant to satisfy. If off-target, shift priorities and/or actions so you get closer to what you want/need/desire. Watch and see whether and how the means effect/shift the ends.
There's a certain art to living a good worthwhile satisfactory life. I'm well pleased w/mine. Could be better. I'm working on it.
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