Oh, My - I Needed That!
Dec. 6th, 2011 11:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mlerulesHad a really good time at the trad'l Pagan Jug Band FREE Tuesday eve (6:30-8:30pm) show at Blue Monk this eve w/good friends. Just got off the phone w/another, and beforehand had good conversations w/yet another. The previous conversation included a useful/healthy realization 'bout the importance of not conducting my emotional life as if it were a non-profit.
Dealing w/Drama-Queens (male or female or non-specified/other) often involves being subject to Emotional Black Holes, where it doesn't matter how much attention / time / energy you throw towards him/her/it/zem/whoEVER, more's desired/needed/demanded. But there's another way this issue can arise.
Sometimes someone realizes, hey, I'm not really getting what I want/need from this situation / r-ship, and then resolves to try to solve this issue by figuring, okay, I guess I need to try harder and/or do more, and pours even more into the pit trap, even though it's has already shown to be devoid (or nearly so) of producing what's desired/required. But why throw good emotional currency after bad?
I suppose once one had made an initial investment (thinking slot machines here), it makes a certain amount of sense not to wanna give up, but instead toss more into the mix, figuring sooner or later it'll stick and you'll be appreciated and the stars will align and it'll all be worth it. (Mebbe though gambling's not a particularly good model on which to base one's emotional r-ships ;-) [AND NO, THIS DOESN'T RELATE TO ANYTHING I'M CURRENTLY DOING/EXPERIENCING - IT'S A REFLECTION UPON PAST & OTHER ACTIONS/OBSERVATIONS)
It's important to know when to back away, when to pull back, when to say "enough," and then to follow through by stopping/cutting back. This is not easy...quite uneasy-making, in fact.
Okay, it's late and I'm not feeling as if this is particularly clear or coherent, but that's it for now. Off to snoozle-land now. Sweet Dreams to all & sundry.
Feeling on 'n' off more like the version of myself I quite like, which pleases me. May this trend continue!
Dealing w/Drama-Queens (male or female or non-specified/other) often involves being subject to Emotional Black Holes, where it doesn't matter how much attention / time / energy you throw towards him/her/it/zem/whoEVER, more's desired/needed/demanded. But there's another way this issue can arise.
Sometimes someone realizes, hey, I'm not really getting what I want/need from this situation / r-ship, and then resolves to try to solve this issue by figuring, okay, I guess I need to try harder and/or do more, and pours even more into the pit trap, even though it's has already shown to be devoid (or nearly so) of producing what's desired/required. But why throw good emotional currency after bad?
I suppose once one had made an initial investment (thinking slot machines here), it makes a certain amount of sense not to wanna give up, but instead toss more into the mix, figuring sooner or later it'll stick and you'll be appreciated and the stars will align and it'll all be worth it. (Mebbe though gambling's not a particularly good model on which to base one's emotional r-ships ;-) [AND NO, THIS DOESN'T RELATE TO ANYTHING I'M CURRENTLY DOING/EXPERIENCING - IT'S A REFLECTION UPON PAST & OTHER ACTIONS/OBSERVATIONS)
It's important to know when to back away, when to pull back, when to say "enough," and then to follow through by stopping/cutting back. This is not easy...quite uneasy-making, in fact.
Okay, it's late and I'm not feeling as if this is particularly clear or coherent, but that's it for now. Off to snoozle-land now. Sweet Dreams to all & sundry.
Feeling on 'n' off more like the version of myself I quite like, which pleases me. May this trend continue!
