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mlerulesMust lift the needle out of the trad'l mental rut and place it ... where 'xactly? Need some sorta framework on which to place the hat. What're we supposed to do when no longer following the trad'l rules? The phrase "new expectations" sprang to mind. Expectations, however, must be based on something at least somewhat coherent. This is one of the trickiest bits: I have very little in the way of valid expectations, 'cause how in the heck CAN I? Must beware of dragging along olde expectations (buggage - combo of baggage & luggage). Not helpful. The opposite in fact.
Perhaps it'll work to modify (expand) an existing category. This gives me some guidance in how to act, what to expect, how to handle/deal w/stuff & things. Must choose the right one though. Or at least think through the possibilities enough to snag a bit of this from here and that from there. Life's trickier when we must proactively create the rules/world in which we choose to live rather than go 'long w/more trad'l stuff, although even there it's not trouble-free, as it's not always clear what's okay, what's not, what's acceptable under what circs, what the rules are and how to follow 'em. I prefer gen'l principles to hard-and-fast specific rules. Situations can dictate/require shifts in cut-and-dried must-do's, making them irrelevant or at least a pain in the @ss (assuming a low tolerance for hypocriticality - bad gr & sp...tough t!tties).
Soundtrack: Games People Play. Here's one of the biggies: what's the GOAL of this particular game? This'll impact which category I choose as the primary basis for the new framework. In other words: what do I want/expect outta it? Once again I'm back to New Expectations. Trouble is I don't know 'nuff 'bout the possibilities. Of course, they'll likely change anyway...or at least possibly. What happened to sitting back and letting what is just be w/out thinking/worrying so much? In the search for balance, there's time spent fluctuating...and I'm at the high end of analytical right now. Will return to letting go and letting it be in a bit. This is yet another paradigm shift I'm trying to work towards: not thinking/worrying/considering so dangblamed much. And I AM far better than I've been. Not gonna beat myself up for falling back into olde habits/patterns. Will realize what's happening and then move on...
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Realization: I miss X. A lot. Haven't heard from X in weeks. Used to be at least 1x a week (if not multiple times daily). Hoping X's okay. Starting to worry. Trying to figure out how to find out w/out flinging sh!t towards a high-speed fan. Damnitall - WHY did things have to go down like they did?
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I want triggers buttons pushed found created. Giving & getting.
Perhaps it'll work to modify (expand) an existing category. This gives me some guidance in how to act, what to expect, how to handle/deal w/stuff & things. Must choose the right one though. Or at least think through the possibilities enough to snag a bit of this from here and that from there. Life's trickier when we must proactively create the rules/world in which we choose to live rather than go 'long w/more trad'l stuff, although even there it's not trouble-free, as it's not always clear what's okay, what's not, what's acceptable under what circs, what the rules are and how to follow 'em. I prefer gen'l principles to hard-and-fast specific rules. Situations can dictate/require shifts in cut-and-dried must-do's, making them irrelevant or at least a pain in the @ss (assuming a low tolerance for hypocriticality - bad gr & sp...tough t!tties).
Soundtrack: Games People Play. Here's one of the biggies: what's the GOAL of this particular game? This'll impact which category I choose as the primary basis for the new framework. In other words: what do I want/expect outta it? Once again I'm back to New Expectations. Trouble is I don't know 'nuff 'bout the possibilities. Of course, they'll likely change anyway...or at least possibly. What happened to sitting back and letting what is just be w/out thinking/worrying so much? In the search for balance, there's time spent fluctuating...and I'm at the high end of analytical right now. Will return to letting go and letting it be in a bit. This is yet another paradigm shift I'm trying to work towards: not thinking/worrying/considering so dangblamed much. And I AM far better than I've been. Not gonna beat myself up for falling back into olde habits/patterns. Will realize what's happening and then move on...
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Realization: I miss X. A lot. Haven't heard from X in weeks. Used to be at least 1x a week (if not multiple times daily). Hoping X's okay. Starting to worry. Trying to figure out how to find out w/out flinging sh!t towards a high-speed fan. Damnitall - WHY did things have to go down like they did?
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I want triggers buttons pushed found created. Giving & getting.
