Along w/Trust...
Aug. 8th, 2005 10:50 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mlerules...there's being judged. Often trust goes hand-in-hand w/whether (and how) you feel you're gonna be judged by whoever you're interacting with. In general, I've found that trust increases as judgementalism decreases. And vice-versa. If I can trust that you're not gonna think (and act like and spread rumours that) I'm a total weirdo by my telling you certain facts 'bout my life and/or values I cherish and/or thoughts I have and/or fantasies I've imagined, then I'm more likely to be more open w/you 'bout any/all of these things.
...there's discretion versus rumor-mongering. If you're a gossip-hound (and I figure this out in time >fingers crossed...gah, never mind<), then my trust ain't gonna be so good/large, 'cause you may not know (or be able to) keep private stuff to yourself, figuring if'n I told YOU, then YOU can tell whoever you want. Discretion's part of trust. Increased proof of discretion can lead to greater trust. Evidence ('specially repeated as opposed to isolated oops occurance) of indiscretion decreases trustworthiness (vis-a-vis personal/private info).
All this (trust, nonjudgementalism, discretion) falls under the rubric of RESPECT, which I consider vital and necessary (even if not always there) for good social relations (one-on-one, small group, community, etc.)
...there's discretion versus rumor-mongering. If you're a gossip-hound (and I figure this out in time >fingers crossed...gah, never mind<), then my trust ain't gonna be so good/large, 'cause you may not know (or be able to) keep private stuff to yourself, figuring if'n I told YOU, then YOU can tell whoever you want. Discretion's part of trust. Increased proof of discretion can lead to greater trust. Evidence ('specially repeated as opposed to isolated oops occurance) of indiscretion decreases trustworthiness (vis-a-vis personal/private info).
All this (trust, nonjudgementalism, discretion) falls under the rubric of RESPECT, which I consider vital and necessary (even if not always there) for good social relations (one-on-one, small group, community, etc.)
