FEE Model

[mlerules]

Fair Energetic Exchange. This resonates w/me on many levels.

Whabout energy expended w/out acknowledgement? (Completely different from a volunteer situation, where it's asked for and given!) If'n I expend it unasked for, it's my own damn fault. Freely given, freely chosen. If'n I'm giving more than I feel comfie with, it's up to ME to curb it, to pull back on my own reins. Okay, this is getting very close to something I'm uncomfie with...

I want mutual interest and engagement. I'm gonna pull back if'n it feels too one-sided.

Comments

[darthsunshine.livejournal.com]

This resonates some with me as well. Something that it's taken me a long time to recognize, though, is that I'm not consistent in what I want. Or rather, my threshold for what I feel is being exchanged (and whether I'm giving more than I'm getting, or perhaps more accurately, more than I'm comfortable with) is different on different days/at different times, even with the same people/circumstances being involved.

And it's taken me even longer to realize that *that's okay*. As long as I'm doing my best to honor what I'm comfortable giving/receiving *now*.

Good luck! :)
*hug*

[ignusfaatus.livejournal.com]

yeah. it seems to me that mutual reciprocation is what is rare. It's an anxious dance of where will we find the green light? I am very bad at this dance. Good at yearning, never risk enough to ask.

good on you for being brave