Recycling Thoughts/Ideas
Jun. 7th, 2005 08:20 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mlerulesSomestimes I think of r-ships & social dynamics as a game - with one of the main goals being to figure out the rules and the rest of the goals. Other times it seems like a set of constellations (again, without the physics of movement and placement being clearly laid out in any star maps I know of) that rotate and revolve (oh if only I were the North Star!) And sometimes it's a dance: multiple movements & moves & partners & possibilities...much shuffling around and trading off and always the possibility of stepping on somebody's toes. Any way you figure it, one key thing to keep in mind is whether anyone (you first, then those you care about lots, then others you know, then strangers) will get hurt in the process...and whether this "hurt" is real or perceived, legitimate or bogus. Of course, perception does (or at least can) equal reality, so if'n one does feel slighted, even if there was no intention or motive to slight (and even if a reasonable person wouldn't feel this way), then the hurt one suffers can be as intense and real to that person as kicking someone in the shins/groin/face/wherever or ignoring them at a party.
How much, though, should we concern ourselves about these bogus (at times simply STUPID) nonsensical issues? Well, if'n it's someone we really care about, and we know these issues exist, then we accept the person as is and work around the issue, acknowledging it/them and keeping them in mind as we act and react. This can, however, and prolly should include being sensitive to one's sensitivity AS WELL AS helping them work out the issues and stop being so dang blasted touchy all the time (or even a lot). We're prolly ALL touchy at one point or another. We prolly all have our red hot candy apple red buttons that when pushed make smoke rise from our ears, turn off the sensible side of our brains, trigger a fight or flight reaction, make us temporarily wacko. It helps if'n we're aware of 'em so can (AND DO) warn others of 'em so inadvertant messes don't ensue. Which raises an interesting issue: just how wise is it to be true to thineself if'n it's a f*d up part of oneself that needs adjusting/fixing?
And if'n throwing a rock (physical act) when otherwise stuck can make you feel better, how does one do this emotionally? What sorts of actions can one take to relieve the pressure of whatEVER? (Perhaps tossing out/burning leftover tickets...) Had one friend help herself recover from a marriage by painting "Betty Crocker" on a rock then tossing it over a cliff into the ocean. Symbolism can work wonders...if you believe and go 'long w/it. Letting go can be tough. I worry sometimes that if I let go I'll forget how to hold on...or that I want to hold on...or mebbe I don't. Mebbe I'm better off on my own. Nah. I'm far too social for that.
How much, though, should we concern ourselves about these bogus (at times simply STUPID) nonsensical issues? Well, if'n it's someone we really care about, and we know these issues exist, then we accept the person as is and work around the issue, acknowledging it/them and keeping them in mind as we act and react. This can, however, and prolly should include being sensitive to one's sensitivity AS WELL AS helping them work out the issues and stop being so dang blasted touchy all the time (or even a lot). We're prolly ALL touchy at one point or another. We prolly all have our red hot candy apple red buttons that when pushed make smoke rise from our ears, turn off the sensible side of our brains, trigger a fight or flight reaction, make us temporarily wacko. It helps if'n we're aware of 'em so can (AND DO) warn others of 'em so inadvertant messes don't ensue. Which raises an interesting issue: just how wise is it to be true to thineself if'n it's a f*d up part of oneself that needs adjusting/fixing?
And if'n throwing a rock (physical act) when otherwise stuck can make you feel better, how does one do this emotionally? What sorts of actions can one take to relieve the pressure of whatEVER? (Perhaps tossing out/burning leftover tickets...) Had one friend help herself recover from a marriage by painting "Betty Crocker" on a rock then tossing it over a cliff into the ocean. Symbolism can work wonders...if you believe and go 'long w/it. Letting go can be tough. I worry sometimes that if I let go I'll forget how to hold on...or that I want to hold on...or mebbe I don't. Mebbe I'm better off on my own. Nah. I'm far too social for that.
