My response is "Well, if settling feels better than being single, even if it's not perfection, do it." I tend to recommend going with the least miserable option. But as soon as settling is consistently more painful than being alone, chuck it. Hence me recommending a long engagement period, typically.
Oh, I'm all for that if someone wants to do it. But the way she wrote the whole thing, it came across completely as, "This is my opinion and you should follow it or you're deluding yourself." Which I think she actually says, at one point. That's where the "Oh, fuck you," comes in. ;)
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