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Fits 'n' Starts
Feeling like there's stuff I wanna say, stuff I wanna process 'n' work through, but then whenever I come here and start tip-tapping away, there's nada coming out. *sigh*
So, what's the cure - or heck, A cure that works - for Mental Constipation? Hmm, it's not necessarily MC that's whassup, as my mind's whirring along, but I'm not very able to articulate whassup. Mebbe it's too soon for a brain dump. Mebbe I need to let it marinate s'more before it's ready for Prime-Time processing. Finding it a bit frustrating though. I haven't had many issues getting it out before. Mebbe Mental Viagra'd help to firm things up some. Heh, 'cept then I'd likely blather on 'n' on for four hours solid w/out stopping. THAT doesn't sound quite as pleasant as I'd like, actually.
Gonna toss out a few crumbs now to see if'n this is enough to prime the mental pump:
Healthy R-ships require/include/are characterized by:
- FEE (Fair Energetic Exchange)
- Harmonious energy flow 'tween ppl involved - not quite sure precisely what this means or exactly how it looks or acts (although it makes a certain amount of intuitive sense), but it came up in conversation earlier today w/![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
lightfoote so I'm including it in the disco and on the list for now.
CBA (Cost Benefit Analysis) can help figure out whether a particular r-ship is healthy, w/too much investment by either side (over an extended period o' time) signaling potential for Bad Sh!t aka unhealthiness. Begs the qx tho of How Long Is Too Long, b'c balance plays into this sorta thing, big-time.
Oh, and BZZ'Zing - a good thought just came up, thus justifying this attempt as far as I'm concerned. It's one of the basic things that I'm somewhat embarrassed for only getting it now in this context. (And yes, I'm being purposefully vague now...cryptic-MLE is cryptic ;-)
What works for one person may not work for another. If'n it works for X, then that's cool. But if'n another person enters the picture, things may (likely WILL) shift. Social dynamics works this way. The energy available varies depends on who all's involved. The energy flow shifts as well. Oh, it gets quite complicated. And even if'n it makes no sense as written, what I really care about here 'n' now is that I feel okay w/it, which requires a certain amount of thinkie-thoughting and analysis, but ultimately (mebbe) relies on feeling okay w/it (as above, so below). Phew!
Related, but not fully: need/desire for attention. Thinking back to a friend calling himself a Chronic Attention Sponge. And once again circling back to my desire and need for Mutuality, or in the lingo above, FAIR Energy Exchange. Or something. Thoughts 'n' feelings're stirring 'n' swirling. Things're starting to fall into place.
And moving on... There's something that's bugging me. It's a pattern. It's related to past history. Past patterns have a habit of repeating themselves. What though can I do about it? Have sympathy and empathy and exercise understanding and compassion. Don't make it All About ME. Just saying this helps me make it so. And as my heart swells, so does the pain shrink...
Herding thoughts 'n' feelings ain't always easy, but it is worth it to keep those pesky buggers on the right path (or at least in the right pasture)...
THE USUAL CAVEAT HOLDS TRUE: No one issue or person is prompting this. (Okay, not exactly true, but the only person who's behavior has prompted one bit of this ain't on LJ at all, so it's not YOU I'm talking 'bout, 'k ;-) I'm going on and/or going off 'bout things 'n' stuff as I try to generalize from past experiences and then try to test my generalized hypos by relating to real-life circs. The bulk of this has come up from workshops I've attended and disco's I've had w/various folks recently, NOT from specific r-ship issues I'm confronted with and/or dealing with right now. END CAVEAT.
END POST. 'Til next time...
So, what's the cure - or heck, A cure that works - for Mental Constipation? Hmm, it's not necessarily MC that's whassup, as my mind's whirring along, but I'm not very able to articulate whassup. Mebbe it's too soon for a brain dump. Mebbe I need to let it marinate s'more before it's ready for Prime-Time processing. Finding it a bit frustrating though. I haven't had many issues getting it out before. Mebbe Mental Viagra'd help to firm things up some. Heh, 'cept then I'd likely blather on 'n' on for four hours solid w/out stopping. THAT doesn't sound quite as pleasant as I'd like, actually.
Gonna toss out a few crumbs now to see if'n this is enough to prime the mental pump:
Healthy R-ships require/include/are characterized by:
- FEE (Fair Energetic Exchange)
- Harmonious energy flow 'tween ppl involved - not quite sure precisely what this means or exactly how it looks or acts (although it makes a certain amount of intuitive sense), but it came up in conversation earlier today w/
lightfoote so I'm including it in the disco and on the list for now.CBA (Cost Benefit Analysis) can help figure out whether a particular r-ship is healthy, w/too much investment by either side (over an extended period o' time) signaling potential for Bad Sh!t aka unhealthiness. Begs the qx tho of How Long Is Too Long, b'c balance plays into this sorta thing, big-time.
Oh, and BZZ'Zing - a good thought just came up, thus justifying this attempt as far as I'm concerned. It's one of the basic things that I'm somewhat embarrassed for only getting it now in this context. (And yes, I'm being purposefully vague now...cryptic-MLE is cryptic ;-)
What works for one person may not work for another. If'n it works for X, then that's cool. But if'n another person enters the picture, things may (likely WILL) shift. Social dynamics works this way. The energy available varies depends on who all's involved. The energy flow shifts as well. Oh, it gets quite complicated. And even if'n it makes no sense as written, what I really care about here 'n' now is that I feel okay w/it, which requires a certain amount of thinkie-thoughting and analysis, but ultimately (mebbe) relies on feeling okay w/it (as above, so below). Phew!
Related, but not fully: need/desire for attention. Thinking back to a friend calling himself a Chronic Attention Sponge. And once again circling back to my desire and need for Mutuality, or in the lingo above, FAIR Energy Exchange. Or something. Thoughts 'n' feelings're stirring 'n' swirling. Things're starting to fall into place.
And moving on... There's something that's bugging me. It's a pattern. It's related to past history. Past patterns have a habit of repeating themselves. What though can I do about it? Have sympathy and empathy and exercise understanding and compassion. Don't make it All About ME. Just saying this helps me make it so. And as my heart swells, so does the pain shrink...
Herding thoughts 'n' feelings ain't always easy, but it is worth it to keep those pesky buggers on the right path (or at least in the right pasture)...
THE USUAL CAVEAT HOLDS TRUE: No one issue or person is prompting this. (Okay, not exactly true, but the only person who's behavior has prompted one bit of this ain't on LJ at all, so it's not YOU I'm talking 'bout, 'k ;-) I'm going on and/or going off 'bout things 'n' stuff as I try to generalize from past experiences and then try to test my generalized hypos by relating to real-life circs. The bulk of this has come up from workshops I've attended and disco's I've had w/various folks recently, NOT from specific r-ship issues I'm confronted with and/or dealing with right now. END CAVEAT.
END POST. 'Til next time...