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Four (4) years ago escrow closed and I got the keys and spent my first night at Hive Magnum aka HOME. I didn't move in until October 2013, what with full electrical work, partial plumbing work, and finally new hardwood floors installed.

Lookie here at Then & Now: https://www.flickr.com/photos/8146112@N06/albums/72157686115986135
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These days, it's even more important than usual to take care of oneself and not get too scared/irritated/worked up/crazed. Finding that cooking works well for this for me. (Bonus = better on the pocketbook!)

Yesterday's follow up to Monday's successful dinner came out well. In the AM, I stuck a pork roast into the crock-pot with apple juice, liquid smoke, and pink Hawaiian sea salt. Fast-forward to last night, when we had tasty meat slices and steamed broccoli for dinner. The rest (along w/more veggies) will serve as supper tonight, topped w/salsa.
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aka what's in the fridge = what's for dinner. An LJ friend has begun cooking something new every week for 2017. She inspired me to skip the usual stir-fry I'd planned. Instead, I sauteed an onion and some sliced zukes in olive oil and butter, added chopped tomatoes, seasoned with salt & pepper & basil, tossed in the leftover box of mini-penne, then added in the chicken breasts I'd cut up after baking. 'Twas yummy - and ended up as both last night's dinner and today's lunch.
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Yesterday's Portlands Womens March left me feeling far more heartened then I've felt since November. There's still much to be done to get through the next 4+ years without losing hope (or health insurance or human rights &c.), but at least so many are committed to this.

Here are a few pics from my time yesterday: https://www.flickr.com/photos/8146112@N06/albums/72157677694106341
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This term has come up now and again when discussing/thinking about dealing with rship issues (including rship with oneself). Folks generally agree that it's best to have many tools available rather than trying to rely on a single one or two ('specially if we're talking Hammer & Tongs or Vice Grip).

Some of the ones that folks employ (usefulness varies):

Hammer & Tongs aka shouting it out or hammering home whatcher saying repeatedly, usually increasing volume but not varying the words used (not recommended).

Vice Grip aka holding so tight you never let go (not recommended).

Flux Capacitor aka the capacity to handle large quantities of flux in a rship (can be quite useful).

Compartmentalization aka keeping worlds apart (can be emotional worlds/segments within a single person) (can be helpful, but not always).

Journals aka writing stuff down to help work it out/through. Articulating thoughts/feelings can help one get a grip on them. Going back and reviewing journals can help spot/track patterns which one may want to revise...or revisit if found helpful in the past.

So, thoughts on other tools for the toolkit, either helpful or harmful? (Yes, how they're used can most definitely affect their impact.)

EDIT: Others have posted some good thoughts (one of which didn't appear here in comments for some reason). So, here's s'more:

Per Nomilomi: DC Power - Direct Contact, the benefits of physical touch. For people who are stabilized or recharged by this, this is a key component to regular functions. For me it's especially valuable when skin touches skin.

Per fjorlief: a few thoughts... someone over on your LJ mentioned physical touch, which can sometimes and for some people make communication more clear - perhaps could call it "contact cement". Also "mirrors" as in mirrored speech/active listening, where each person paraphrases what they other is trying to communicate, in a way of becoming more clear about what they each are trying to say to one another...

I find that writing multiple pages without censoring my writing can sometimes bring things I didn't realise were there to light, when exploring my own thoughts/feelings

And from the news (well, Dangerous Minds): Dialogue - https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/12/05/david-bohm-on-dialogue/

And finally, to boost sanity through giggles: Make America Kitten Again by Replacing Pics of Trump with Kittens:

http://www.businessinsider.com/make-america-kittens-again-google-chrome-extension-replaces-donald-trump-with-kittens-2016-12
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Let's see if this cross-posts to LJ... Fingers xd.
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Oh, what difference a good night's sleep makes! Feeling about 93% today. I can tell, because my interest in (and ability to follow through on) getting stuff done has expanded beyond the very basics of brushing teeth, making & drinking tea, answering important emails, and napping again. Don't want to go too fast or too hard and relapse, but do wanna get more stuff done and eventually even leave the house for the first time since last Friday afternoon when I grocery-shopped to get through the cold, icy, storm-heavy weekend. Gasp!
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Oh, what difference a good night's sleep makes! Feeling about 93% today. I can tell, because my interest in (and ability to follow through on) getting stuff done has expanded beyond the very basics of brushing teeth, making & drinking tea, answering important emails, and napping again. Don't want to go too fast or too hard and relapse, but do wanna get more stuff done and eventually even leave the house for the first time since last Friday afternoon when I grocery-shopped to get through the cold, icy, storm-heavy weekend. Gasp!

Now, how does one post to DW so it mirrors here?

EDIT: I think I've figured out cross-posting. Must needs test it out to see now.
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A week and a day later, with two Rx in the mix, and I'm still coughing up gunk and feeling fairly lousy. Ah well, it's icy out there anyway. Spending the 2nd day of the weekend much like the 1st, taking it easy: staying inside, bundled up, hot tea handy, reading (novels & on-line news & LJ/FB), glancing at the football on the screen now 'n' again, doing some stuff what needs doing. Will make a big vat of chili later for dindin.

I've managed to upload the final photos to the 2016 photo frame above the mantel, and to Flickr. Here's the link to my Flickr sets, in case you're interested: https://www.flickr.com/photos/8146112@N06/albums

Lots to do this week. Much of it can be done on-line, thank goodness.
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So many of you are shifting/have shifted to DreamWidth, I'm sheeping along as well. mlerules, as here. Please find and friend me, or whatever 'tis you do. When I'm back home later I'll do more about figuring it all out, Alphie.
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Okay, the past few days I've seen oh-so-many of my LJ friends shift here to DW. I miss the community, so'm now gonna give this a try.

Will do more here later. Am feeling poorly (tail end of a bad cold, now w/extra gunk in lungs and still lots of coughing, and bonus lassitude), but have stuff to do.

So, who's here now?
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So, I've been gone a bit lately. Albums of adventures (here & there & not-necessarily particularly adventurous) can be found on Flickr: https://www.flickr.com/photos/8146112@N06/albums.

Leaving again for a weekend in WA tomorrow AM. First up: Rites of Jupiter (by same friend who did Rites of Venus about 9 years back, which I saw the one night it played at PDX's OTO) - http://ritesofeleusis.com/ (Interpreting Aleister Crowley’s Rites of Eleusis as Rock Operas). Ending fun: https://www.gofundme.com/2t3netf8 (SJ Tucker & Bekeh Kelso play Sidhehaven).

Wheeeeeee!
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Soon my life will change significantly, as I embark on a new career as a Real Estate Broker aka Real Estate Agent. For now though, I'm posting about a marvelous bday adventure involving driving down to the Bay Area for Bday Dinners w/fambily, the trad'l Solano Stroll, and driving back again via the Oregon coast. Full set of way too many pics to come eventually (on my Flickr - MLERULES). For now, here're a few: Read more... )
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My 'rents arrive Monday for a week. My bro arrives w/new GF on Friday for a couple of days. (They'll stay at a nearby hotel/B&B, but'll be around for hanging out here.) The first PacNW fambily reunion happens on Saturday.

Okay. I've made the guest room bed with fresh sheets, laundered all towels and sheets, and procured replacement vacuum cleaner bags & filter. The dining room, living room, and kitchen have been swept. The kitchen's mopped. Also checked off list: clean bathroom floors and tub. Must needs vacuum bedrooms and hallway and clean bathroom mirrors and counters. Hence an LJ post...HA!

Have weeded backyard and West side yard and most of front yard against the house. East side's been weed-wacked and tidied. Have finished mulching all but the plants by the front porch this past week. Now have RumbleStone plan for the weekend to section off the plants in front of front porch from the lawn (and contain the mulch). Will obtain rest of required bits tomorrow, thus avoiding a visit to Home Despot over the weekend.

Okay, music's blasting and plan's've been made. Onto the final push of housecleaning!

Behind the cut you can find a few recent pics of the Hive Magnum (HM) backyard:
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'Twas a glorious several days! Link to Pics Behind Cut )https://www.flickr.com/photos/8146112@N06/albums/72157665070841306

Here're a few sneak peeks from the set:


Sunset at Cannon Beach, OR


Fingers of Light - Ecola State Park - Cannon Beach, OR


View from Lanai at the Cove - Seaside, OR
Nice Foggy Day


View from Lanai at the Cove - Seaside, OR
Lovely Dawn


View from Lanai at the Cove - Seaside, OR
Nice Sunny Day

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